17 jan 2005 ST life

haha.. i love this article..

The good, the bad and the ugly

Sure, they're nice to look at. But do good-looking people necessarily make good partners?
By Teo Pau Lin

THERE are two things that average-looking people like to say about good-looking people.
First, they're probably dumb.
It's pure injustice that they got more attention from parents and teachers when they were kids, and grew up to have more friends, landed better jobs, got promoted faster and married other good-looking people.
So we average-lookers like to spite them by hitting where it hurts. We say they're stupid. We give them names like bimbo, air-head or muscle-brain.
After all, anyone so well-endowed in one department must be deficient in another. It's Nature's way of balancing things out.
Deep inside though, we know not all beautiful people are dumb. As hard as it is to stomach, some people do sickeningly possess both brawn and brain.
But it's okay.
We average-lookers have one other grenade to lob against good-lookers, which brings me to point No. 2.
They make lousy partners.
I first heard it when my Mum warned me many years ago to stay away from good-looking boys. They're trouble.
Last week, her sentiment was echoed in a friend's mother, who also cautioned him against dating pretty girls. They're trouble.
Mothers know things. They've been around longer than we have, so there must be some hard-earned truths behind their caution.
It makes sense too. Good-looking people will always attract attention from the opposite sex, even right up to a ripe old age.
When relationships grow stale or hit a bump, as they always do, they are likely to bail, given the tempting spread of hassle-free options outside.
Good-looking people are also likely to have had many prior relationships than average lookers.
Chances are, you'd have to grapple with the ghosts of their many ex's past, possible entanglements with unresolved break-ups, even blows to your self-esteem when comparisons are made.
Used to being lavished with attention from previous partners, they could also be egotistical, high-maintenance and difficult to please. In other words, you're the slave to their king or queen.
Of course, such behaviour is not the sole domain of good-looking people. Plain-lookers can also be masters of cheating, lying and all manner of despicable behaviour.
But the thing is, good-lookers are more likely to be lousy partners because they have more of what it takes to become one.
Sure, they're great to look at and could make you the envy of your friends. But they're probably not long-term material.
Guys seem to find it harder to resist good looks than girls.
My friend with the anti-pretty-girl mother tells me that all guys, without exception, go for looks.He says: 'We're made that way. A girl may have a good heart, but if she looks like a sack of potatoes, forget it.'
But we girls are different. Call it innate wisdom or just the biological need to propagate the species, we go for guys who can provide and will stick around. Looks aren't that big a deal.
I consoled him that, in Singapore at least, good-looking women far outnumber good-looking men. So there are many well-adjusted, level-headed women out there who offer both looks and quality.
Good-looking Singapore men? They're hard to come by. So by sheer rarity in species, they are most likely to prove all mothers right.
I posed the good-looks-equals-lousy-partner theory to another friend, who disagreed vehemently.
'Sometimes, ugly people are even more susceptible to straying because they're not used to getting attention. So every time they get it, their heads swell and they'll pursue it,' he says.
Interesting thought.
I guess good looks is no barometer on whether a person will make a good or bad partner.
The real barometer is character.
Traits like honesty, trustworthiness and loyalty will keep a good-looking person decent, and make an average-looking person attractive.
That, more than anything, is the safest bet.
tat day went to AJC watch BAD's performance.. oh man.. it was so fun.. like wat felicia says of vjc lah.. it feels like home.. i was so high there.. waving to ppl n laughin like mad.. n felicia managed to get second row seats.. first row was fanclub lah.. haha.. so near to them.. when they came down de stage we were like 1 metre from them!! n there's no crowd.. so i felt so lucky lah.. yah.. actually it's geraldine's fren hu managed to get us ac ppl tix.. then i saw soke yee n yu xin there.. haha.. super funny..

their dance moves were all so smooth lah.. n their singin rawks lah.. heh.. only tat danny was like covering his eyes all de time.. hmm.. but i think alex got de most fans lah.. coz dun think de ppl there really noe hu is BAD or wat.. but alex is like constantly wavin n dian-ing every single person.. his dian really works loh.. maybe becoz his eyes were real big.. as compared to ben beside him..

de highest part was after de thing.. we tot they gonna go liaoz n they started singin 'zhe shou ge bu shi wo dian de'.. haha.. so funny lah.. de lyrics was like tellin us not to go.. n me n felicia were like runnin to get out.. coz we wanna go to van or wat to wait lah.. like wat we always do..

yah.. n later we went behind de audi to wait for them to come out.. actually everyone noe de way lah.. so there was a crowd.. but then danny peeped his head out from this window.. dunno whether it's me or felicia hu found out.. btu then we waved to him lah.. so funny lah.. n everyone else couldnt recognise him [this shows tat they are not fans of BAD.. tsk tsk..] haha..

end of my crazy day at ajc.. i was so high till de night lah.. n all de way to de nxt mornin.. haha..i'm gonna be late for trainin liaoz!! k i end here.. haha..

bleh.


gao tian qi..

東山再起的MVP情人 高天騏
2004/12/23

安古小檔案.
姓名:高天騏.
綽號:安古.
生日:1983/09/11.
身高:178公分.
體重:73公斤.
畢業學校:宜蘭高中.
球隊:緯來獵人、輔仁大學

曾經在台灣相當受歡迎的偶像劇「MVP情人」,不僅捧紅了5566、張韶涵等演藝明星,也使籃球精靈顏行書成功跨足演藝圈,不過整齣戲最令我印象深刻的其實是「高興」這個目中無人的過氣MVP,他屌兒啷當的個性被高天騏詮釋得活靈活現,令人眼睛一亮!不過也因為日夜軋戲的關係,使高天騏被迫中止學業,甚至因此引來許多人的惡意中傷;經過了兩年的沉潛,這位昔日最受囑目的MVP,正一步步尋回曾經擁有的一切!

從雲端跌至谷底

2001年HBL高中籃球聯賽,宜蘭高中的雙後衛「安古」高天騏與林志隆憑著飛快的速度及創意十足的傳球,瞬間讓宜中成為眾人囑目的焦點,尤其是外表俊俏的安古更被票選為當年的人氣王,「MVP情人」一劇更是讓他聲勢如日中天;安古在短短兩年中成為眾人擁戴的對象,不過卻也在接下來的短短兩年中陷入人生的最低潮。

Q:最近在UBA大專籃球聯賽的表現不錯,有恢復以往身手的味道,你對自己最近的表現滿意嗎?
高:不滿意!我覺得我還沒有調整至最佳狀況,大致僅恢復七、八成,不過若跟前兩年比較,最近的進步幅度的確相當明顯,也希望藉由這次UBA及SBL的大賽洗禮,將我的球技層次達到更勝以往的巔峰。

Q:為什麼選擇報考輔大?

高:其實不是我刻意選擇輔大,其實在這兩年期間,我一直都在考試,只是都沒考上,所以我很感謝輔大的劉俊業教練肯收留我這個「過街老鼠」。

Q:外界有傳言說你當初離開師大的原因是覺得上場時間太少,這是主因嗎?

高:當初因為拍戲的關係,球技已漸漸生疏,所以我也不會去抱怨上場時間太少,這個傳言絕對是空穴來風。事實上,主要是因為當時在拍MVP情人時,經紀公司跟學校之間的溝通出了問題,導致我沒有多餘時間回學校上課,曾經有連續兩、三個禮拜沒出現在學校,當時已覺得被二一大概是八九不離十了,所以原本想說先辦休學,不過我爸覺得既然不讀就不要讀,沒有辦休學的必要,因此也就沒有去辦休學手續,以致於演變到最後被學校退學。
所以實際上不是因為我品行不良、不好好讀書、為非作歹而被退學,只是單純因為時間沒談攏,導致缺課過多,再加上沒去辦休學,才被學校退學;而外界的傳言也讓我在這兩年承受相當大的壓力,因為我覺得我明明就沒有外界所傳得那麼壞,可是我去參加每間學校考試時,那邊的學生就會說我們為什麼要收一個被師大退學的壞學生,我當時心裡很難過,因為我根本就不是那種人。

Q:那麼當初為什麼會接拍MVP情人?

高:我想家人不斷地鼓勵及支持是主要因素,其實我本身對演戲並沒有多大興趣,純粹只是為了讓我的家人一圓星爸、星媽夢而已,即便是到現在,他們還是一直鼓勵我能繼續拍戲,因為在台灣實在很難靠打籃球維生。其實今年暑假時,有人曾邀請我拍攝偶像劇「極速傳說二」,不過當時我剛考上輔大及參加緯來獵人隊的選秀,我不想再重蹈師大的覆轍,所以便斷然拒絕了;我個人實在對這個領域沒興趣,每個人都有自己的理想,而我的理想就是當個體育老師,教學生打球。

Q:當你得知通過緯來獵人選秀時的心情如何?

高:其實我原本沒有想要參加選秀,不過有個好朋友鼓勵我如果還想繼續打球的話,就去參加選秀,因為我不是沒有機會,不如試看看,說不定人家會看上我,讓我再度接上籃球這條軌道。
而當最後被叫到名字時,心裡真是超開心,跟中樂透沒兩樣,不過畢竟中斷了兩年,不管是體能還是球技都還差人一大截,所以必需按步就班地調整;到目前為止,我覺得調整得還不錯,其他人也覺得我的體能狀態及球技比兩年前真的進步很多。
休學後第一年幾乎都沒有運動,所以體重直線上升至85公斤,一直到今年8月份參加緯來選秀會時,體重還「維持」在84公斤,不過現在已經瘦到75公斤;事實上,我現在吃得比以前還多,不過運動量實在太大,緯來獵人第一天練球我就吐了兩次,後來幾個禮拜也幾乎是每練必吐,前兩個月練球真的很痛苦,有如十八層地獄,也常常興起退出的念頭,可是朋友及家人不斷鼓勵我如果真的要走這條路就要撐住,也就這樣撐到今天。
就是要讓大家閉嘴!

Q:你從什麼時候開始接觸籃球?

高:因為我小時候跟爺爺奶奶一起住在部落裡,而原住民部落一般只盛行棒球及足球,所以我其實一直是打棒球的,直到國中轉到哥哥所就讀的學校才改打籃球;我哥哥高天俊當時在宜蘭籃球界中已經是個十分出名的籃球員,因此很多人都認為我也應該很厲害,可是我當初真的是對籃球一竅不通,在班際籃球賽中,什麼走步、兩次運球、帶球走,你想得到的違例我大概都犯了,還拿著球滿場跑咧!
由於當時是靠我哥的關係才進籃球隊的,所以進不去的人難免就會說我打這麼爛還能進籃球隊,而不斷在旁邊冷嘲熱諷甚至羞辱我;不過也因此讓我更想打好籃球,讓大家閉嘴!

Q:那麼在籃球路上,誰是影響你最深的人?

高:當然是我哥囉!我之所以會碰籃球也是因為我哥,雖然他帶給我不小壓力,不過我認為這是正面的,讓我更想去走籃球這條路,讓那些瞧不起我的人刮目相看!在高中時,哥哥會和家人一起到球場看我比賽,而且在比賽結束後告訴我優缺點在哪,讓我不斷進步。

Q:你的家人現在有常常到現場看你比賽嗎?

高:現在我幾乎沒有時間回家,獵人隊一個禮拜中只有禮拜一放假,偏偏禮拜一又要上課,所以我的家人會到現場來看我,像上禮拜對文化那一場比賽,我的家人都有來現場看球,至於鄉下的爺爺奶奶等親戚也都在電視機前收看,我爸媽還在比賽現場跟爺爺奶奶電話連線,爺爺還操著原住民口音說:「安古怎麼打得這麼瘋狂,一直進一直進,拉鋸戰怎麼這麼刺激啊!」

Q:安古這個名字是誰取的?

高:安古是我的原住民名字,意思是「可愛的」;這個名字是爺爺取的,因為我小時候長得白白胖胖的,很可愛,就這麼一直叫到現在。
在訪談中,安古坦言自己並不如外表那麼開朗、外向,其實他是個缺乏自信且超級悲觀的人,不擅於表達內心裡真正的想法;最後,他也十分誠摯地向支持他的球迷表示:「雖然我的球技尚未達職業水準,我希望大家能多給我一點時間,讓我自己去突破我自己的障礙,我不敢奢求會做到多好,只是我會盡自己最大的努力,去爭取更多的上場時間!」
一段簡短的訪問,讓我對安古有另一番認識及體悟,我也衷心期盼他能如願東山再起!

【HOOP Style流行誌2005年1月號】

woa.. didnt realise he had been missin for 2 whole yrs already.. n think he changed a lot bah.. 2 whole yrs liaoz.. even yan xing shu looks so diff now..


tat guy in front is gao tian qi.. only he looks a little weird..


see his name there?

haha..


echorwen

actually i spent most of my orientation as being part of de backdrop.. n think i accidentally dao some of my og mates when sch started.. hey.. i didnt do it intentionally.. either i really didnt see u or juz tat i tot u were wavin to someone else.. but well.. i had a great time being with de grp n they will surely be part of my memory.. there is a grand total of 2 og meetin.. but i missed both.. with one reason or another.. argh.. but still a big thanx to all in echorwen.. echorwen rawks!!

presentin echorwen 2005 of olaundros [is this how u spell this?]..


life still goes on..

yday was sji.. actually ppl wanted to pon it one.. but in de end quite a lot of ppl went lah.. de snr class is actully quite nice.. as wat i tot of de whole ac population.. stayed for like 20min only? rushed back to ac for bball tryout.. argh.. cheated my feelin.. it's actually to play play one.. there's another actual one.. but dunno whether sji is gd..

playin bball is fun lah.. but if got trainin it becomes like yucks.. coz i dunno leh.. now also got air rifle trainin too.. doubt i'll get into sch team lah.. 140 ppl only 10 gets into sch team.. maybe goin back to dear av club.. join mrc or photographic club loh.. why cant they combine arh? then it'll be like gd old days av club..

still countin days to friday everyday.. means i dun like my jc life? maybe..

i miss qiang wei zhi lian n kui (!!!) a lot.. still didnt get to watch my vol.4.. argh.. though i noe wat happen liaoz.. changin my song to hua dou kai hao le.. n vol.3 is still de best vol. among de whole serial.. toks abt a lot of things.. n make ppl think of many things tat happened..

everyone in this show looks scary.. ella n her scary hair.. zheng yuan chang in his even scarier long curly hair n silky night robe.. n huang zhi wei n his scary fake blue eyes..


acsian..

bloggin in acj now.. actually shdnt do this one.. coz lib cant play agmes with de comp.. but hu cares? muahaha~~ later got air rifle trainin.. dunno whether it's trainin.. it's juz wat they called it.. yday was dance audition.. argh.. dumb.. de ppl there were nice.. but de teacher was tat ny indian teacher sam tok abt.. damn scary.. but well.. but bin cao thruout de whole dance.. so i'm not in!!

waitin for bball tryouts.. hope can get in lah.. then see loh..

kung fu hustle..




day FIVE!!!

yeah.. i'm back from last day of orientation.. now is like.. eh.. 1.20am.. coz got camp fire.. compared to nanyang actually quite sianz lah.. do de things also not related to camp fire.. but mass dance was fun!! first time in my life i like mass dance leh.. n my dance partner clarence also more enthu today so very fun lah.. dance on de field with mud at like 10plus in de night.. de whole sch.. n we repeated de 2 dances 3 times!! but fun!! [but very sad my shoe turned yellow after wearin it 2days only.. :'( ]

today OG outin go seoul garden.. n dunno hu started tellin jokes n makin scrambled eggs.. siaoz one loh.. then ppl started laughin for no reason coz they juz started laughin n cant stop.. say dirty jokes on mrt loudly.. mad one.. but i only at de side listen lah.. actin nerd these 5days.. de total nerd kind..

hey.. n ppl really think i'm guai gai.. haha.. dumb lah.. i'll try to not be so guai gai when class start..

joined 5 cca now.. haha.. coz ogl mel say 'join all! then later quit lah!' so i did tat.. not so bad le lah.. ppl join 7.. join bball, dance, badminton, canoe and air rifle.. didnt try MRC [av club] coz sad life lah.. same cca for 6yrs.. but sure start quitin one.. bball nxt fri try-out.. dance wed try-out.. badminton every thu.. canoe is i cant rmb [i joined tat coz kaihui told me to.. haha..] then air rifle is 2 days on wed, thu or fri..

dun think i keepin canoe lah.. heard ogl say canoe girls all super muscle one.. big big in size.. damn scary.. he said one could do 10 pull-up.. n trainin tough lah.. so.. dun think i'll continue lah.. bball shd be de serious one.. dance.. eh.. wait till i get in audition first.. air rifle n badminton also like CMI like tat..

posted to class 1SB5.. i noe nobody!! n de guys llike damn bo-chap.. very scary.. girls quite little lah.. but all shd be okie bah.. still thinkin whether i shd take econs.. i cant intepret graphs loh.. computtin takes too much time.. geog like quite big a subject.. then bio.. lazy to appeal..

orientation can hav 5 full days really horrible.. until de 3rd day we had this strange game called wat 'find sherman'?.. coz this cavalon leader is missin.. n we got to find out where he is.. n yday was dumb games also.. same to today.. only first 2days like got okie games.. n my pe shorts now is super hard now.. coz starch cant wash out.. argh..

got used to de keep prayin habit in sch.. i juz shut up loh.. n peep at ppl prayin..

haha.. n i'm in shaw hse.. de cheer damn lame one.. coz they suddenly think of one..
shaw hse! 'watch movie!'
shaw hse! 'watch movie!'
shaw hse! 'watch movie!'
go~~ lido!!

nxt wk start sch.. only lectures now.. sianz.. see first lah..

heard tat de phy department is de worse in spore.. bad..

n i finally got my tan back.. though my nose n forehead is red from bein in de sun for too long.. (:

horrible day 1 in new sch..

sigh.. 1st day of sch went past n i'm super tired.. mind not tired lah.. but my legs achin liaoz.. first day actually quite bad.. coz juz feel like everyone is still floatin around.. like ppl are all juz goin for an excursion with their sec sch frens in a jc.. argh.. n i dun have many frens comin.. only 2 more from my class.. wat i'm happy [n shocked!] abt was tat i saw quite a few of my pri sch frens!!.. got 4 bah.. geraldine, pei si, hafiz and jie yim.. geraldine n hafiz spot me one.. but i found pei si n jie yim.. so fun loh.. 4 yrs nv see n now again in same sch.. i didnt expect anyone to come one loh.. okie lah.. i secretly hope some will go same jc as me but got so many!! i'm a lucky person..

yah.. back to de evryone was floatin around.. coz now de OG we are in are not de ppl in our class.. so everyone also like no urge to noe one another coz like nxt we not gonna see them liaoz wat.. then somemore we also not sure whether we stayin in tat sch.. everyone sianz sianz one.. no one like wanna noe each other..but others are juz with themselves.. so suay loh.. not a single person i noe is in de same OG as me.. k lah.. yanling was same as me in a big grp.. but tiny grp got no one!!

so i feel so out.. cannot fully enjoy myself coz no one was esp. crazy.. then i also dun dare to do anything.. play also limit myself.. frens-less.. horrible.. but hope after we got our class this fri i think then start lessons nxt wk then everyone can like settle down a bit.. n can start makin frens..

n hoh.. no same uniform really makes a diff loh.. with same uniform then ppl will then to get closer one i realised.. sigh.. now everyone is so diff.. yucks..

bad day day 1.. hope tml can be a better day.. i hope..